Triplets turn 2…. Terrible 2′s x 3?

by sue on November 15, 2011

in Parenting

We celebrated the 3littleBees 2nd birthday this past weekend. They are just starting to understand the present thing and it was so much fun watching them hug some of the items that they really liked. They got so many nice things, and it was kind of humorous to see all the nicely wrapped presents and bags, x3 packed on the table.

We went with one cake this year, but I’m sure as they get older we will need to do something different, so each can blow out their own candles.

I’ve had many ask if I’m ready for the terrible 2′s, and I’m not sure I agree with that label. When my daughter turned 2, it was a magical time. She learned so many new things in such a short time, it was truly amazing. Yes, you probably need to be in the best shape of your life, because keeping up with a 2 year old is very physical, not to mention 3 of them running every which way, but I’m up for the physical, it’s the mental challenges of a 3+ year old that scares me.

I think a 2 year old needs to be entertained non-stop (that’s the physical part), but they now seem to have a little bit of an attention span, maybe only 5-10 minutes, but that is something. The other nice thing about having multiples, if they entertain each other – Instant playmates!

So no, I’m not ready for the terrible 2′s x 3, I’m ready for a house full of crazy and non-stop amazement!

Best of Luck,

Sue

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Avatar of twinishemama twinishemama April 24, 2012 at 11:57 am

We thought we had it rough with 2 but triplets must have been 3 times harder! But also 3 times better!!!!
Add to the equation that we are older parents I had them in my late 40’s and I work full time!
I am new to Blogging and I love reading about other parents of multiples ;-) so I am sorry if I commented on this older post but I could not resist reading anything about terrible ‘2 and multiplied by 3 !!!!! Irresistible!
Nice meeting you ;)

Avatar of Meme29646 Meme29646 June 27, 2012 at 10:43 pm

Hi….I became a “parent” of multiples two years ago. Unfortunately, they are my grandchildren and were only 8 months old when they came to live with me. I obtained custody of a 3 year old grandson and his 8 month old twin sisters, as well as another 8 month old granddaughter. Therefore, a 3 year old and 8 month old “triplets” and I was a single grandmother (57 years old). It sure has been tough, but we do what we need to do in life.

Later this summer, all three of the girls will be turning three years’ old. The past year has been really difficult with all the two year olds.

At this point, my biggest problems surround bedtimes and naps. They no longer stay in their cribs and literally destroy the room. I have removed practically everything out of their room, but it is amazing what they can get into. :-) I love them dearly and very much enjoy watching them and playing with them, although my house is a disaster and I have to RUN to the bathroom and RUN back before they get into too much trouble.

Any ideas would be helpful. I don’t get much help from their parents so I am on my own.

Avatar of sue sue June 28, 2012 at 10:13 am

You are a wonderful grandmother, and your grandchildren are so lucky to have you!

Hmmmmm…. we still have crazy days at nap and bedtime, but let’s see if we can figure out something to try to get them from destroying their room.

Bed time and nap time are SO MUCH different when you have multiples. They feed off each other’s habits, good and bad, and they enjoy doing everything together, good or bad, even to the point of waking each other up, just so they don’t have to be alone.

For our home, it’s been very important to make nap and bedtime a “good” part of their day. We call it “happy nap”, and have never used naps or bedtime as a punishment, so for the most part it’s just another part of their schedule. And you have to have a schedule… Nap at the same time, bedtime routine the same time and same way every day, etc… Of course there are special occasions when things aren’t exact, but that should only be once in a while, not the norm. Kids thrive on routine, and that way they don’t know any different. Meaning that they won’t fight you to stay up at bedtime, if they NEVER get to stay up at bedtime.

Once they started getting out of their cribs on a regular basis, we moved them into big beds, twin size, not toddler beds. I don’t have that kind of money to spend on something that isn’t going to be used for very long. I’ve also heard people say that they removed the cribs and just put the crib mattresses on the floor. Whatever works for you!

After lunch, I let them watch TV, or play for about 1/2 hour, so they can settle down a bit. Now, I learned the hard way that 3 kids left inside a bedroom can cause all kinds of trouble, especially when they are tired and crabby. So, although I hate to admit it, and never thought I would do this…. but I sit in their room each day before nap and bedtime until they have fallen asleep. At nap time it takes 15-25 minutes, and a little longer at bedtime, but we let them pick 2 songs to sing each (mellow songs of course), and we sing quietly. Eventually they get the idea that they aren’t supposed to be running around their room, tearing clothes out of their drawers, throwing diapers and wipes everywhere and tearing their beds apart. I have no idea how long it will take your little ones, but would think that the longer they’ve been able to do the bad behavior, the longer it will take to stop it.

For those of you that think I’m crazy for sitting in their rooms before nap/bedtime, it’s worked for me, because I started to get very angry, running up and down the stairs, cleaning up mess after mess, and I even started swatting bums, which I HATE! So I knew I had to make a change.

After sitting in their rooms for several weeks, we I try to leave the room while they are still awake, but almost asleep, and eventually hope to just put them to bed and leave the room. I bring my kindle or iPhone because it reduces my stress and passes the time. It might seem like a lot of time at first, but if you think about how it reduces your stress and the time you save from not having to clean up all the messes, it is worth it.

Let me know what you think, or if you have done something else that worked!

Best of Luck!
Sue

Avatar of Meme29646 Meme29646 July 2, 2012 at 10:29 am

Hey Sue, I think I will try your suggestion about staying there until they fall asleep. I had already picked up toddler beds at yard sales, etc. so I do not have a lot of money tied up in them.

I put a small toy box in the room with stuffed animals. One day this week, after naps, I walked into the room to find white balls of stuffing ALL over the floor. It looked like it had been hailing int here. Took more than 30 minutes to vacuum all of that sticky stuffing up. LOL.

I will keep you posted.
Debbie

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